Wednesday, August 22, 2012
"We're going to be okay," my father sighed, barely
audibly.
I had been engrossed in a zombie novel as my parents and I enjoyed a break from 100+ degree weather. They spoke softly to each other across the table from me. I hadn't been listening to their conversation. It mostly involved the details of their imminent move across three states and frankly, zombies interested me more.
That simple phrase uttered by my father is what snatched me back from my reverie. I took my attention from my book to glance between my parents. They were holding hands and looking into each other's eyes, sharing a moment that I supposed was the sum of the heartache and joy accumulated over 40 years of marriage. A chill ran up my spine at the eerie sound of those words.
“We’re going to be okay.”
Those words are rarely the cheerful melody accompanying a life free of worry or concern, a life barely lived. People rarely say them as they whistle along with a spring in their step. Generally, they’re spoken with the fresh memory of a terrible battle barely survived looming over, or through the fog of uncertainty for what lies ahead.
Then, like a boulder plunged into the ocean, it sank into my heart – the reality and gravity of everything behind me and ahead. There I sat, 23 years old, divorced, unemployed, penniless and soon-to-be homeless. I had been living as though transition was a permanent state. Soon, my parents would embark on a new adventure to pursue their dreams, and I will set out to rebuild a life on a foundation of failures and shattered hopes. As I considered this, my heart was challenged. Could I endure so patiently and with such thankfulness all the weight of this world for the next 40 years? Could I then visit the memories of my sufferings in a single glance and whisper, "I'm going to be okay"?
I had been engrossed in a zombie novel as my parents and I enjoyed a break from 100+ degree weather. They spoke softly to each other across the table from me. I hadn't been listening to their conversation. It mostly involved the details of their imminent move across three states and frankly, zombies interested me more.
That simple phrase uttered by my father is what snatched me back from my reverie. I took my attention from my book to glance between my parents. They were holding hands and looking into each other's eyes, sharing a moment that I supposed was the sum of the heartache and joy accumulated over 40 years of marriage. A chill ran up my spine at the eerie sound of those words.
“We’re going to be okay.”
Those words are rarely the cheerful melody accompanying a life free of worry or concern, a life barely lived. People rarely say them as they whistle along with a spring in their step. Generally, they’re spoken with the fresh memory of a terrible battle barely survived looming over, or through the fog of uncertainty for what lies ahead.
Then, like a boulder plunged into the ocean, it sank into my heart – the reality and gravity of everything behind me and ahead. There I sat, 23 years old, divorced, unemployed, penniless and soon-to-be homeless. I had been living as though transition was a permanent state. Soon, my parents would embark on a new adventure to pursue their dreams, and I will set out to rebuild a life on a foundation of failures and shattered hopes. As I considered this, my heart was challenged. Could I endure so patiently and with such thankfulness all the weight of this world for the next 40 years? Could I then visit the memories of my sufferings in a single glance and whisper, "I'm going to be okay"?
